Netflix's Social Dilemma documentary-Should You Quit Social Media?

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I watched Netflix's Social Dilemma Documenarty recently. It sincerely has me considering quitting social media or limiting my usage. It's scary to think how algorithms on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, Tik Tok keep us on their platforms. It's fun keeping up with friends and their feeds. I consume dance videos on these sites-learning new choreography and promotions on upcoming parties. Film, video game, pro wrestling; social media is my go-to for the latest news on these past times.

But being in an echo chamber, fed only agreeable content based on the posts I'm engaging with, as an attempt to keep me on these networks longer feels wrong. I've been keeping track of my usage, and I spend more time on these networks than I do on my creative efforts, which I feel is my purpose in life.

Also, news reporting, which has become more emotion-based in recent years, is dangerous. It can create anger, confusion, anxiety. I purposely stay off the news 4-5 days a week because it does the same to me.

Some time ago, minimalism attracted me. I was a heavy user of most popular platforms, which had years of my photos and memories. But I deleted my accounts and kept using Instagram and YouTube as they both seem less invasive, little to my knowledge, they aren't.

When the pandemic began, I'd listen to Gary Vee, and he discussed being on as many of these sites as possible. 'This is where people's attention is.' Particularly for a content producer such as myself. He's correct as I notice my behaviors and friends habitually logging hours on these apps on their phones. After watching this documentary, that night, I deactivated all my social media.

I am guilty of being easily influenced by programming I watch on YouTube or TV and have acted reactionarily in the past. After a good night's sleep, I thought, I will keep most(not all)of my accounts. The specific ones where I engage most with others, I'll limit to two days a week.

When it comes to sex, food, and TV, I can overindulge. I'm still actively working on disciplining my consumption in these areas. Social media will be included in this group.

Find out more about the Social Dilemma documentary here The_Social_Dilemma

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Flynn Vs. K-Tron and Obsidian Fury-ACTION FIGURE PHOTOGRAPHY

New action figure photography!   I've been sitting on these a while.   Here I have the Tron 'Flynn' figure(the character from the 1982 movie) vs. K-Tron(from 2017'sValerian film) and Obsidian Fury from Pacific Rim: Uprising.    The set I'm using is Extreme-Sets Sector 7 Docking Bay.    Affiliate links down below.   Thoughts?   Comments?   Do so below.

Obsidian Fury and K-Tron look for their target.

It's lead them here to Sector 7.

They have found they are looking for!

They all react.

Flynn defends himself.

His reaction may be too slow.

The showdown begins!

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Tron https://amzn.to/2FsoqAt

K-Tron https://amzn.to/3k736jb 

Obsidian Fury https://amzn.to/33ilkr9

Find out more about the set here: https://bit.ly/3iebeOl  

Not All Christopher Nolan Movies are Great-Tenet Review

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Not all of Christopher Nolan's movies are god's gift to cinema. I watched Tenet last night, and it was satisfying, and it wasn't.

Great to be back in a movie theater after being closed several months due to the pandemic. Thank you, state of New Jersey. 25% capacity, I was only one of six people in my 8 p.m. showing.

Tenet was hard to follow. I felt I needed subtitles to understand all the dialogue between characters. I didn't understand why the protagonist, played by John David Washington(who's voice sounds so much like his dad's-which is cool), had to do X, Y, or Z(no spoilers). Also, the music and sound effects were so loud at times.

Which other Nolan movies did I feel where good but not great? Dunkirk was hard to follow; I eventually fell asleep while watching it but found the ending satisfying. The Dark Knight Rises doesn't wrap up its antagonists very well and feels overly stuffed.

Besides these three films, I've enjoyed most of this fantastic director's work. Whenever he's producing a movie, it's an event for me. I've watched almost everything he's directed since Memento(I haven't watched Insomnia with Robin Williams or the short documentary Quay).

With Tenet, I realized he enjoys themes with time, which he uses in Inception and Dunkirk.

Tenet, a good, loud movie but hard to understand.

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August Cooldown MixTape 2020

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August Cooldown Mixtape-perreo, bachata, dancehall, Afrobeat and more https://t.co/zhmR8GCZvg

— paul_v_perez (@paulvperez1) August 29, 2020

 

The dog days of summer are coming to an end here in the northeast USA...here's some tunes to keep you cool for the rest of August.   Enjoy!

Tracklisting:

Song/Artist
No Me Llegan (with Bulin 47)	El Mayor Clasico, Bulin 47
Rumba	Rochy RD
4K	El Alfa, Darell, Noriel
Simón Dice	Doctor Jay
Mal De Amore	Vicente Garcia
Centavito	Romeo Santos
Gyal	Minz
No Me Llegan (with Bulin 47)	El Mayor Clasico, Bulin 47
Rumba	Rochy RD
4K	El Alfa, Darell, Noriel
Simón Dice	Doctor Jay
Mal De Amore	Vicente Garcia
Centavito	Romeo Santos
Gyal	Minz
Jeje	Diamond Platnumz
Samba	NSG
Bad Breed (Afro/Caro) [feat. Big Zeeks]	Footsteps, Big Zeeks
Shape Nice	Afro B, Vybz Kartel, Dre Skull
Buzz	Popcaan
Lockdown	Koffee
Can't Fly	Patrick, Wayne Marshall
COOL AS THE BREEZE/FRIDAY	Chronixx
FIND YOUR WAY BACK - MELO-X Remix	Beyoncé, Melo-X
Coffee Shop	Sunnery James & Ryan Marciano, Kes Kross
Se Va	Armand Pena
According To Me - La Cumbia Cienaguera	D.O.D
Colombian Soul - Sllash & Doppe Remix	D. Ramirez, Mark Knight, Sllash & Doppe
Borracho	Daddy's Groove
Couped Out (feat. Fivio Foreign)	Famous Dex, Fivio Foreign

Move Ya Hips (feat. Nicki Minaj & MadeinTYO)	A$AP Ferg, Nicki Minaj, MadeinTYO
Muwop (feat. Gucci Mane)	Mulatto, Gucci Mane
BODYCOUNT (feat. Jasiah)	TOKYO’S REVENGE, Jasiah
Five More Minutes	Jonas Brothers
Nobody's Love	Maroon 5
NTE	Buscabulla
Ignorantes	Bad Bunny, Sech
Tattoo	Rauw Alejandro
Adictiva	Daddy Yankee, Anuel AA
CELEBRATE	Black Eyed Peas
Cherry Pie (feat. Pharrell Williams)	Buju Banton, Pharrell Williams
It's OK To Be Black	Jac Ross
Revival	Gregory Porter
C-Side	Khruangbin, Leon Bridges
Midnight	Khruangbin, Leon Bridges
SCARRED UP	Daniyel
Don't Cry (feat. Trevor Jackson)	ADÉ, Trevor Jackson

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Here are Some Recent Video Games I've been playing and enjoying!

Here are some recent gaming clips I’ve uploaded to my social media.   These are a few of the titles I’ve been playing.   More clips to come.    These are all on Xbox.

I’ve really been enjoying #streetsofrage4 ..here I’m close to ending the game. This style of game takes me back to my childhood. Great game! #xbox #gamepass pic.twitter.com/oh0pz0xndt

— paul_v_perez (@paulvperez1) August 23, 2020

After all this #dcfandome talk..decided to enjoy one of #telltale 's #batman games #xbox pic.twitter.com/MGhvutM5XW

— paul_v_perez (@paulvperez1) August 23, 2020

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If your a gamer and horror fan...check out #carrion on #xbox #gamepass ...sci-fi, horror, Metroid style game where you play a human eating blob...fun!

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My Sex Addiction

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I like to play a game where I reflect on my life and think if I can go back in time to my 15-year-old self, what advice would I give myself?  

Don't watch or masturbate to porn would be number one. Why?   

It's caused a 30-year addiction, which has devolved from regular porn to transgender porn and seeing sex workers.  

The fixation began in childhood. Compared to my friends and family, I felt I wasn't very good looking. I was awkward when talking to girls well into adulthood. My confidence was low. Porn was a comforting escape; it wouldn't deny me. It's always there.  

What has this dependency cost me? Thousands of dollars and time, lots of time. Sex addiction is isolation, shame, fear of living.

I've been seeing prostitutes for the last 3 plus years. Sometimes they'd be nice; other times, they just went through the motions. Sometimes they were waiting for me to leave. When I say they were nice, they would allow me to have unprotected sex with them(at times). I also ask them to do the same to me. They wouldn't watch the clock, I'd ask them for a massage, or I'd give one in return. It starts off wanting sex but ends with seeking intimacy, which is never there. Fears of catching an STD, STI, getting arrested, or hurt by going to a dangerous part of town in the middle of the night, never deterred the craving for the variety, danger, and orgasm. When the withdrawals begin, it wants to be satisfied and will do what it must. It hasn't been all bad, but I don't want to live like this forever.

I am actively working on conquering this compulsion and having some success. Listening to porn addiction podcasts, reading books on the subject matter have educated me. Therapy has helped as well, which I've been actively doing the last 2-3 years. Dating is something I'm beginning again, which is tough when paying for sex has been so easy.  

 I also consume lots of MGTOW content. Men Going Their Own Way. This mode of thinking discourages marriage and relationships due to the divorce rate and financial bankruptcy for men. That scares me. Being a child of divorced parents and witnessing a version of this first hand. I used this as an excuse to continue my sex addiction, but I ended up back in square one, longing for real connection—yearning for someone who wants me.  

I've been researching semen retention and the Karezza form of lovemaking. These ideas excite me and make me look forward to getting into a relationship with someone. I don't want kids or marriage but a girlfriend, maybe cohabitating. Transmutation is also of interest. The spreading of sexual energy and recycling it in other parts of my body.

Changing these bad habits into repeated positive actions is tough. It is the biggest challenge of my life. Failure will happen, but I will continue to push through.

Resources

Porn Reboot podcast https://player.fm/series/the-porn-reboot-podcast 

Mindful Habit podcast https://bit.ly/323LEoy 

Book on Karezza form of lovemaking and semen retention (affiliate link)-Cupid's Poisoned Arrow by Marnia Robinson https://amzn.to/31YFKF6 

Previous podcast episodes on seeing escorts https://bit.ly/342V85W and my thoughts on MGTOW https://bit.ly/3h2ynCB 

Sexaholics Anonymous https://www.sa.org 

What is MGTOW? https://www.mgtow.com 

What is No Fap(semen retention)? https://nofap.com 

Thoughts?   Comments?   Do so below.

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I Want to Spend More Days Like This!

When I was working, I didn't always have time to dig deeper into my interests.   I appreciate my job, and I do miss it.   Having hours to sleep, relax, spend time-visit with friends and family, learn new skills, and dig into my creativity and documenting activities has been great.   When I look back at this world-changing period, it won't be all negative and scary.   Here's a sample of what I've been up to lately.   Thoughts, comments, do so below.   These videos are all on my Instagram profile which you can find here https://www.instagram.com/paul_v_perez/ 

Washington Square Park, NYC

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Late night artwork

 

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#latenight #doodles #artwork

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Kayaking on the Hudson river..

 

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On the #hudsonriver this past weekend...the #newjersey side #gopromax #360 #littleplanet

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